We ask that question to people who call us for help, been a part of one of our recovery groups or have been impacted by a family member who chose abortion.
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Here's just a few of the responses we've heard:
I have never told anyone about my abortion. I wish I'd never laid on that table. It's the only decision I can't "take back". I sort of died inside that day. -LM
Our abortion ruined my self-esteem, as well as my marriage. I do not stand up for my myself anymore. But then again.... I didn't stand up for my baby. -GR
We made a quick decision to abort. We didn't do any research or think about it for more than 24 hours. We drove to the clinic and "terminated". Two months later I bought a new SUV. I spent weeks analyzing safety features and got opinions from other model owners. I spent more time researching my car than I spent on the decision of our unplanned pregnancy. -DC
I feel so empty! I went against everything I believed in because I lacked courage. I was raped, and got pregnant. It wasn't my baby's fault I was assaulted. Why did I sacrifice my childs' life? Nobody told me the abortion would hurt more emotionally than the rape! - MS
I was a teen when my family, friends and boyfriend sat me down and told me that abortion was my best choice. Geez, even our church pastor agreed. I thought the church was supposed to be against abortion. I thought they were supposed to encourage life and help those that were hurting. Months after the abortion, my church still won't talk to me about my depression and suicide attempts. So much for the "church body"! -Anonomous
The doctor told us that our baby would be born with physical challenges. We didn't want to deal with those issues, or impose them on our family, so we chose to abort. During our second pregnancy they told us the same thing, but we chose to give birth to our daughter. She was born perfectly normal. What if our first baby wasn't really disabled? -YR
Since our abortion all I do is drink and gamble. I've lost my job, my ambition and all my goals in life seem to now be meaningless. I take my frustration out on my family and friends. They don't even know about my abortion. -AM
My sibling was aborted. Yet my parents let me live. Why did I get to be the "lucky" one? I deal with survivors guilt everyday. -SC
I spent years in and out of rehab. Drugs became my life, from the moment I took the life of my child. No one ever warned me about the nightmares I would have... or the flashbacks. Drugs seemed to make the memories go away. -RF
I used to be a nurse in an abortion clinic. I told the women that their pregnancy was just "a blob of tissue" and that they wouldn't feel a thing. Women were physically hurt in our clinic; one even died. I lied to them! How can God forgive me? How do I forgive myself? -BN
I am the niece of an aborted aunt or uncle; the sibling of a life terminated for medical reasons; the mother of two babies born unto Heaven by choice. To say that "abortion affects families" is quite the understatement. -CC